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What Do You Do When Even Your Chaminade Yearbook Calls You Gay?

Bullies called him gay, and he's not going to take it anymore.

They said he was gay in the email to faculty and students. They said he was gay to his face. They said he was gay in his middle-school yearbook.

There was only one problem. The 13-year-old student at Chaminade College Preparatory Middle School in Chatsworth said he was not gay. His mother said he is not gay.

And now, in court filings, his lawyer says he is not gay.

In a report on FOX 11, Producer Heidi Cuda says the boy's "entire life was devastated."

"Reading through the court documents, reps for the school imply that the school doesn't have legal responsibility for the bullying, the email and being called gay in the yearbook," Cuda reports.

Debbie February 22, 2013 at 04:42 PM
Where was the teacher adviser for the yearbook? Don't they proofread it before it goes to print.?
Jannet Bornkomm February 22, 2013 at 07:21 PM
Chaminade is pathetic. So this is what it means to be a Catholic Chiristian.
Mary Kaufman February 22, 2013 at 10:37 PM
The fact that it got into the yearbook? Come on---someone had to proof the yearbook--when I was on the staff for my yearbook, several people proofed it not just 1 person!
larry wilcox February 24, 2013 at 02:00 AM
My experiences with the bullies and DONORS of Chaminade were deastating for years thereafter and their cavalier attitude says it all about deceit and secrets. There were so many incidents with multiple donor families boys who were great athletes quit the school because they felt the faculty would LIE. This is one sick environment and the bullies are only ONE part of the cancer mentality. So very sad what this school preaches and what it does in fact. This story is the TIP of the iceber.
larry wilcox February 24, 2013 at 02:10 AM
The school is PRIVATE and uses that veil to the max and rather than address with concern, sensitivity, and protection of a child, the cop out with a technacality of LIABILITY. I asked them once....where is the mantra, the doctrine of you CHRISTIANS....with FAITH, HOPE AND LOVE and got blank stares from robots. Where is the TRANSPARENCY? Each new building, each new donor, has a STORY behind it and it is not one the CATHOLICS want to share. As we have now seen time after time with Cardinal Mahoney and the priests and pedophiles, and the alleged coverups we begin to understand even as the new Pope retires with all of the european upheval over molesting children, we see the pattern of what one construes as a cover up and as attorneys have stated on camera.........pure obfuscation and deceit. Transparency is just not at that school and one just might construe the symptoms as.......the tip of the iceberg. One day, some smart inverstagive journalist will disrobe this outhouse. Oneday ....and it will be for the health of CHILDREN.
John Luker February 24, 2013 at 07:42 PM
I find it the hight of bigotry that it would make it into the yearbook. First off, who is the yearbook advisor? THAT guy needs to be fired! Who in the administration did nothing while this kid was bullied? WHo are the people in the administration of this institution that condone this crap. It doesn't matter if the kid is gay or not. This school is perpetuating negative stereotypes and allowing bigots to teach our kids. And it's all condoned by the Catholic Church that covered the tracks of pedophiles for decades! Disgusting!
Jheri Heetland February 28, 2013 at 08:59 PM
I completely agree with everyone's comments. When my daughter went to that school, I was treated mean because my husband and I were divorced. A Sister at the school would not even talk with me or acknowlege me. She prejudged. They need to go in and clean house that any teacher or administrator let this go in a yearbook and that even went this far.
joyce February 28, 2013 at 09:33 PM
I am not in any way dismissing the yearbook adviser's responsibility, but sometimes things slip by the teacher. Kids can be so disrespectful, mean-spirited, and undaunted by consequences. They may have thought that what they were doing was funny, not hurtful. What the school should have done is not distributed the yearbooks and dumped them. That would have been the right thing to do. Better the school suffer a financial loss than this young man suffer humiliation and ridicule.
John March 01, 2013 at 10:04 PM
I was in this school two years ago. When one of mt friends showed me this post, I didn't know how to react. Let me explain. This kid, not only extremely rich and very show-offish about it, was a bully himself. I was personally bullied by him on multiple occasions, and even assaulted by him. He would gang up with his friends to make fun of me and my group of friends. I always resented him, but Mr. Valentine helped me through some of it. He was a great principal and always tried to do his best to fix these problems. This guy wasn't the only person to have trouble with the yearbook. Me myself was missing from almost every single picture and my name was removed from almost every single list of clubs. This was because the yearbook was made by a bunch of 8th grade girls with only one moderator who wasn't a machine and therefore couldn't catch everything. Mr.Valentine fixed both mine and his problems by taking the yearbook away from all of the students and reprinting those pages. The fact that now he is suing the SCHOOL is ridiculous. He has caused more grief to the school than any other person.
Sigontu March 01, 2013 at 10:06 PM
Hey all, Im a student from Chaminade. I've gone to the Middle School and am currently a Sophomore at their high school -- the same year as the student in question. So I figured I'd comment on the article from a first-person perspective. Allow me to first state a disclaimer- I do not support what happened to the student in any way, nor do I support bullying, as well as homophobia.(cont)
Sigontu March 01, 2013 at 10:07 PM
(cont)However, I figured I should state one thing... He had it coming. Not quite sure if its legal to give out his full name, so lets just use N.J., his initials, to name him for now. Imagine the most stuck-up, rich-bitch person that you know. Multiply their annual income by ten,and multiply the depth of the stick up their ass by 50. You won't get close to where NJ is. He himself fit the bully role as well. I'd like to bring up the story that didn't make the news- when he inflicted head trauma on a fellow student with a softball. He ganged up with another student, initials A.K., to verbally harass that same student throughout the years. He's one of those people that flaunts so much about what they have, and what you don't. Chaminade does a fundraising event every year, in which they challenge students to sell raffle tickets. NJ won best seller every year. His main clients? His own mother and father. Now, onto the article. As a student, I will say a few things: 1: No such email calling him gay and fat reached me. Im not saying it doesn't exist, but I seem to have been left out of the mailing list.(cont)
Sigontu March 01, 2013 at 10:07 PM
(cont.) 2: After the incident, he showed no visible, audible, emotional, physical, or mental signs of being heavily affected by it. 3: Action was, in fact, taken by the school: all of the yearbooks (which, i will point out, were only possessed by 8th graders at the time); were forcefully recalled, reprinted, and returned- with two copies. the original one with the page ripped out, and a reprint with it deleted. 4: He has moved on to a different school. He is a proud and happy member of his school's speech and debate team- at a recent tournament, he was very happy, carefree, and surrounded by friends. I highly doubt his life is THAT devastated. 5: The video puts Mr. Valentine in a bad light. I was, though i didn't know it, cyberbullied publicly through the school's online homework management system. the only time I DID in fact hear of it is when Mr. Valentine called me in the VERY NEXT DAY to make sure I was fine. So i figured i'd just step in here to call B.S. He is full of it. This article is full of it. The damned prosecution is full of it. He kinda had it coming, and he needs to get over it and stop blackmailing Chaminade for a stack of cash. Which I will point out- Chaminade has tried to settle the case for $100,000. Thats about 9 years worth of chaminade tuition. He turned it down, and has put the case where it is today. So stop supporting his reign of economic terror- he really doesn't need his ego fattened up.
Overhyped March 01, 2013 at 10:19 PM
Lets all take a moment to ask what the school did for this student. Once discovered, they required that all students return the book within a weeks time or else they would have detention for the rest of the year. Once we did turn them in, the entire page was cut out and given back to the students. In fact, only one page said that he "is gay." Furthermore, why would he bring up the court case almost two years later? Simple, money. His family has already attempted to sue several other companies and is the way he paid his way into the school in the first place. Honestly, the school did all it did. Most of the instances of bullying told in here were exaggeration or purely made up. And if his life was not hurt by a single student teasing him and everyone forgetting about it a week later. If it really was, than I feel sorry for when he gets out into the real world. But the school does not deserve an attack like this. Source:Myself, and the rest of the Chaminade Student Body
Jack March 01, 2013 at 10:33 PM
This NJ case is very very strange... In fact I was a former classmate of NJ and actually was in the same boat as Singotu, where I was called into an office by Mr. V and was told I was called "faggot" and "gay" over the internet and I personally think it is not fair for this to happen. As stated before he gave a head injury to a kid and is a total jerk to everyone he came in close counters with. If people were allowed to sue for superfluous reasons Weird Al's song "I'll Sue Ya" would be happening in all cases through at the world. But if we lived in a world where someone sues because of an over looked act of a lack of maturity then NJ would be correct, but we don't live in that world and that guy is completely wrong. Thank you for your time and for reading.
Jack March 01, 2013 at 10:34 PM
This NJ case is very very strange... In fact I was a former classmate of NJ and actually was in the same boat as Singotu, where I was called into an office by Mr. V and was told I was called "faggot" and "gay" over the internet and I personally think it is not fair for this to happen. As stated before he gave a head injury to a kid and is a total jerk to everyone he came in close counters with. If people were allowed to sue for superfluous reasons Weird Al's song "I'll Sue Ya" would be happening in all cases through at the world. But if we lived in a world where someone sues because of an over looked act of a lack of maturity then NJ would be correct, but we don't live in that world and that guy is completely wrong. Thank you for your time and for reading.
Jack March 01, 2013 at 10:35 PM
This NJ case is very very strange... In fact I was a former classmate of NJ and actually was in the same boat as Singotu, where I was called into an office by Mr. V and was told I was called "faggot" and "gay" over the internet and I personally think it is not fair for this to happen. As stated before he gave a head injury to a kid and is a total jerk to everyone he came in close counters with. If people were allowed to sue for superfluous reasons Weird Al's song "I'll Sue Ya" would be happening in all cases through at the world. But if we lived in a world where someone sues because of an over looked act of a lack of maturity then NJ would be correct, but we don't live in that world and that guy is completely wrong. Thank you for your time and for reading.

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